thegrungediva has me if I could encourage our mutual friends to chime in as to whether this original post gives the same impression as the clarifying detail she added later. I'm not asking for side-taking, since we've already hashed out things between us, but a concern arose about the quality and clarity of her communication. She's asking for help, y'all. She said, "If my communication really is that bad, I need to know." (This arising because my reaction to the initial post was 180 degrees from my reaction to the clarification.)

So hey. Wouldja?